Being vulnerable and bringing your whole personality to work is a development goal for many leaders. We want workplaces with a strong psychological safety: everyone should feel free to speak their mind. Otherwise the workplace loses its ability improve and innovate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We need leaders that are human beings! As a leader you may therefore try to show your emotions more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I believe that to be a misunderstanding<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What you feel, is not just a reaction to the situation you are in here and now. Your emotional reactions are grounded far earlier, not just by everything you experience during your upbringing. We\u2019ll have to go thousands of years back through evolution of the human race!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I\u2019m a huge fan of getting to know your emotions. Getting really sharp at recognizing them when they wash over you, categorizing them and maybe even reflecting on their origin and functionality. The total number of emotions is debatable, but there are more than the 3 people usually mention first: angry, sad, happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As an example, there is difference between doubt and anxiety, Doubt arises when we are unsure of something new. We focus our attention on our preparations. Our breath is slow and shallow, and we hesitate. Anxiety is the conviction that something can hurt us. Anxiety arises in new as well as familiar circumstances, our breath is quick and shallow and we feel a clenching of the belly, shoulders and neck.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Recognizing and separating between own emotions is like knowing the names of the trees on a walk in the forest: a better experience. This does not necessarily mean acting upon the; they can be part of a survival pattern only relevant thousands of years ago.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That the leader also has feelings will come as no surprise (not to anyone, not to the staff). But emotion-laden reactions, however well-meant, can be perceived as self-centered and cringe, and can hereby increase the distance we wanted to reduce!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What makes sense is to act on your personal values. Values are a set of reflected guidelines, the essence of YOU. Don\u2019t you know them very well, or not well enough to be able to use them actively? Spend some time with me and we\u2019ll clarify them together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
From a former client: \u201cLone helped me define my personal life values \u2013 something I didn\u2019t even realise was so important, but which now forever will define me and my actions. It gives me a sense of direction in life, and it gives me strength to be ME and be mindful of when my borders are crossed\u201d.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Sessions are taking place in \u00d8sterbro or Inner City. Contact me om hej@lonealler if you\u2019re curious.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Being vulnerable and bringing your whole personality to work is a development goal for many leaders. We want workplaces with a strong psychological safety: everyone should feel free to speak their mind. Otherwise the workplace loses its ability improve and innovate. We need leaders that are human beings! As a leader you may therefore try … <\/p>\n